You are less likely to meet your significant other at work now

You are less likely to meet yur significant other at work nowYou are less likely to meet your significant other at work nowIf you watch cable, it may seem as though everyones meeting their significant other at work. Superstore, Brooklyn Nine-Nineand even The Flash - the meet-cutes on the job abound in our binge-worthy TV shows.But though it may seem romantic, that kind of intimate relationship isnt oh-so likely in real life. Only about 20% of heterosexualcouples met as coworkers in the 90s, and now that numbers just above 10%. The probability of meeting at work is even lower for same-sex couples.Follow Ladders on FlipboardFollow Ladders magazines on Flipboard covering Happiness, Productivity, Job Satisfaction, Neuroscience, and moraIn fact, a recent researchdraft by academics at Stanford University and the University of New Mexico found that, from the end of World War II through 2013, there was one way that at least heterosexual couples tended to meet, and its something we take for granted The intermediation of friends.Onesclosefriendsandfamilyhave, probably since the beginning of time, been the essential network foci that enable connections to other people,i.e.thefriendsofonesfriends, according to the research note.The internet has replaced our friendsIn other words, for decades and maybe centuries, our friends have been setting us up, and weve gone along with their blind dates and party introductions. But no more. Not since the Internet took over our dating lives.The report uses data from a 2017 survey to show that, beginning around 2013, the most popular way heterosexual couples are meeting is online (same-sex couples have been more inclined toward the online space for decades).Meeting online has displaced every other way of meeting, including meeting at work,Michael Rosenfeld, one of the authors from Stanford, told Ladders via email. Second, greater awareness of sexual harassment as a problem has possibly put a damper on peoples initiatives to woo their co workers.They have quite a few hypotheses on why apps and websites such as Tinder, eHarmony, and Match.com are replacing loved ones as our matchmakers. The pool of candidates is much larger online, they say, and matches may be potentially more discreet than dating a friends friend. Contrary to what most may think, online dating could seem safer to some people, who appreciate the chance to vet their date before meeting in-person. And dating apps tend to be up-to-date with good algorithms, compared to the social judgment of a friend that could perhaps be off.Whatever the true reason, it seems were not looking to our office mates for potential matches, nor are we seeking recommendations from our friends and family as often. Its all about the online space now, so dont believe your favorite sitcom.WefindthatInternetmeetingisdisplacingtherolesthatfamilyandfriendsonceplayedin bringingcouplestogether, the notes authors wrote.You might also enjoyNew neuroscience reveals 4 rituals that will ma ke you happyStrangers know your social class in the first seven words you say, study finds10 lessons from Benjamin Franklins daily schedule that will double your productivityThe worst mistakes you can make in an interview, according to 12 CEOs10 habits of mentally strong people